“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.” – Zig Ziglar
I have been wanting to write for so long but could not muster enough energy to do that. The last few months have been totally taxing for me. It wore me down easily and I felt as though I lost all my self-confidence. Well, that’s just human I guess.
As soon as I would wake up, I would always feel the urge to do something worthwhile that day but couldn’t actually do so. Well, today was no exception, but it was different at the same time.
I have been reading online resources on brushing up your life skills and training yourself to be positive for the last few months without actually performing any of the tips or suggestions. However, today, I got up and actually wrote down my reinvention plan for 2015.
Writing down a plan to fulfill your dream is much more insightful instead of just confining your dreams in your thoughts on what you wanna be in the future. When I got down to write the plan, my dream felt tangible. It felt as though I will be able to fulfill it without having to wait for long. In other words, writing my plan helped me live the dream and provided me self-confidence.
For this I would like to give credit to all the resources that I read online on developing one’s life skills. Special credit goes to Kathryn Sanford. I stumbled upon Kathryn while I was going through the rummages in Facebook. Her recount of her past resonated with what I am, or rather was, going through at the moment. Kathryn has worked as a teacher, deputy principal, project manager and business consultant. Working with incompetent bosses rendered her redundant 3 times in 18 months. Life was harsh. However, she survived because of her passion for life.
What Kathryn wrote on her blog definitely convinced me to do something with my life. I am a proactive person by nature. But the last few months seemed really challenging. Every time I tried to bring my life back on track, it would rebound and I would fall flat on my back. But this time I can say with great deal of confidence that I will not fall short of realizing my dream anymore.
Life is a roller-coaster ride. I’m sure that even though I have the plan, it will not be a cakewalk for me to achieve my goal. As Robin Sharma said that relentless beats intelligence, I’m on my way to take on the gauntlet life throws at me. With carefully chalked-out actions and tasks, I am sure I will be able to overcome challenges.
Let me leave you with more quotes on the importance of planning.
- “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” – Abraham Lincoln
- “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
- “By failing to prepare, your are preparing to fail.” – Benjamin Franklin
Sometimes things occur when you expect them the least. Who would have thought that I would have a broken arm once again after a period of 9 years! At least not me. But then it happened. I broke my left elbow a little less than 2 months back for the second time. Thankfully, my arm is no longer on cast (plaster). However, I am currently undergoing excruciatingly tedious and painful physiotherapy sessions that render me feeling feverish all day long.
Now you must be wondering as to why I am writing this post despite having painful episodes at the moment. Let me take this opportunity to thank a dear blogger whom I have been following for a pretty long time. He managed to write a blog post today despite his age, today’s ruthless weather and the ever unpredictable power cuts in Nepal. If this elderly gentleman who likes to be called “Dai” (elder brother) could muster enough strength to go about his Christmas shopping in this weather and also write about it, why couldn’t I?
So let me share with you the things I did to distract myself from being worried about my broken arm.
After reading an insightful article on Huffingtonpost.com one day, I decided to try at least as many of the 40 self-kindness advice the article recommended. I like No.6 especially for its emphasis on watching our self-critic from pressurizing ourselves too much for everything and anything. I am trying to keep a balance to everything that’s going on within me ever since I got the fracture so that I do not end up hating myself for all the things that did not go well in my life.
Of the things that I could do during the time my arm was on cast was join the online Oprah and Chopra 21-day meditation experience which spanned from 3 to 24 November 2014. I am most thankful to Chopra Meditation Center for holding this event which coincided with the time when I needed it the most. The discourses given by Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra were amazingly thought-provoking and very enlightening. I wish to apply each day’s mantra and teaching to my every day life.
I remember posting this on my Facebook timeline right after the fracture:
“It’s such a debilitating experience to have an arm broken and then having to face the fact that it has to be plastered for 6 long weeks“.
For once it was debilitating, but later on when I thought about it long and hard I realized how hard it must be for people without limbs, I consoled myself that it’s just a matter of time.
Sometimes when we are weak physically, our minds tend to wander so much that we think only of the negative. I believe that we should not let our inner critics berate ourselves for all the things that went wrong. Just relax and love ourselves.
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Happiness is an elusive state. It is. Nothing can define happiness, instead, it defines everything for us. Having followed Shawn Achor, a Harvard-trained positive psychologist, for some time now, I believe in the power and strength of positive thinking. Thinking positively can bring about miracles in one’s life. Continue reading
“It’s good to remember that in crises, natural crises, human beings forget for awhile their ignorance, their biases, and their prejudices. For a little while, neighbors help neighbors and strangers help strangers.”
–Dr. Maya Angelou
Before we knew it another year is drawing to a close. Every year we resolve to try out new things or at least do things differently as a way to simplify our lives. We look forward to the New Year hoping something magical happens to us and that we live in bliss. But does life become simpler or get more complicated? Continue reading
“I am the master of my fate and the captain of my destiny.”
These immortal words by the greatest enigma mankind has ever known inspired me to break my silence and get out of my solitude. Though there is no denying the fact that this solitude gave me an opportunity to muse at all that happened in the past, trying to fight my inner demons and cope up with the harsh realities of life on my own brought tremendous frustrations.
It was frustrating not to be able to wake up in the morning (not winter Dysania) with the overbearing feeling of what my life will be like in the days to come. For some part of the hiatus, it was a gratifying experience for me to keep myself aloof from the rest of the world. But then this would be overshadowed with the feeling of not being able to bring my life back on track.
I spent my days thinking long and hard at my tomfoolery. I would hit my pillow, swear at myself for all the things that didn’t go well and cringe at the feeling of what my life would be in the days to come. I do not blame anybody except myself for all the misery in my life.
However, it brought huge solace to my heart to think that this was not the first time I experienced a crisis in my life. Those near to me think it was a great miracle to have survived a near-fatal accident in 2006. My limbs were broken but the conviction in me to move on was not. That, to my strongest belief, must have been the greatest reason as to why I am not handicapped.
It’s a truth universally acknowledged that ups and downs are the part and parcel of life. Some may not find a certain situation as gloomy as others would. It’s all about attitude.
Nelson Mandela truly said that we are the creators of our fate. From today on I see myself carving a new path in my life. Keeping to myself was one of the heart-rending tests I endured. It’s time for liberation and what better time than now.